Avoiding the issue
Hard topics get sidestepped until they feel impossible to raise at all.
What matters more than
your relationship?
Couples therapy and coaching that helps you rebuild the loving relationship you intended from the beginning, with a structured program and tools you can use right away.
- 7-phase Relationship Renewal
- ISM communication model
- CBT · IFS · EFT
Couples usually wait too long before getting help.
Relationship problems are easy to put off. Most couples fall into less-than-helpful ways of coping long before they reach out:
The silent treatment
Withdrawal replaces conversation, and distance grows quietly.
Blame and passive-aggression
Frustration comes out sideways, and each partner feels like the problem.
Distraction
Work, screens, and busyness fill the space where connection used to be.
Relationships don't move forward on their own.
We invest in a lot of things. What investments matter most? Relationships are rooted deeply in early attachment, so they don't move forward in a sustainable way without effort. Preventative maintenance is essential.
Couples therapy or coaching can be life-changing. You owe it to yourself, your partner, your family, and your community to work on the loving relationship you intended from the beginning.
“Do you want to be right, or in relationship?”— Thomas Lucking, PhD
Relationship Renewal: a 7-phase program.
Your provider will introduce you to our Relationship Renewal program, a combination of theory and action that helps you learn quickly what is possible within your relationship.
Speak your truth safely
Your provider creates an unbiased, safe, structured space where each partner can speak their truth and be heard.
Find what's really in the way
A thorough intake, history, and a variety of assessments identify what is blocking deeper intimacy and which crises to address first.
Act, learn, and grow
Social experiments and dialogue sprints turn insight into action, with tools you can use immediately.
Accountability is part of the work, so each partner knows they are not alone. Change begins with your first session.
What the work looks like.
Thorough intake and history
We start by understanding exactly what your challenges are and what needs attention first.
Assessments that pinpoint blocks
A variety of assessments help identify what is getting in the way of deeper intimacy.
Evidence-based methods
CBT, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), plus ISM tools you can use right away.
Accountability between sessions
Practice, experiments, and check-ins keep momentum between sessions.
Led by relationship specialists.
Our couples work is led by the creator of the ISM model and clinicians who specialize in helping couples thrive.
Words from couples.
Since my partner and I have known each other (about 20 years) I think we've never communicated like we did last session.
We talk about our life before Dr. Lucking vs. after Dr. Lucking. I certainly did NOT think we would be here.
Get help sooner rather than later.
At the first sign of trouble that persists, reach out. A self-test gives you language for what you're noticing; a consultation gives you a person to talk it through with.
Questions couples ask us.
Both. We'll help you decide which fits your goals during a free consultation.
Individual work can still help. Understanding your own patterns and learning to communicate your needs is meaningful even before both partners are in the room.
Relationship Renewal is our structured model combining theory and action. Your provider will walk you through it in your first sessions.
We are not an emergency service. Call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, free and available 24/7. If someone is in immediate danger, call 911.
Your relationship is worth the investment.
Change begins with your first session. Let's talk about what you're hoping for.
Emily Brown, Client Care CoordinatorSchedule a consultation with Emily to be matched with the right therapist or coach for your needs and your timeframe.Couples therapy & coaching · In person in Los Gatos and by telehealth