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Island of Shared Meaning appOur ISM communication tools in your pocket, with feeling, thinking, behaving, and relating modes.App Store ↗Google Play ↗
Relationship self-testA short questionnaire that gives you language for what you are noticing in your relationship.Take the self-test ↗
Autism & ADHD screenersFree, established questionnaires to help you decide whether an assessment makes sense. Not a diagnosis.See screeners →
A book by Dr. Thomas Lucking
How to Improve Your Social Skills
Practical Exercises and Techniques for the Socially Challenged
Starting from the value of social skills and how they shape your well-being, the book gets very practical with small talk, assertiveness, and empathy, then addresses friendship, dating, the workplace, and groups. Dr. Lucking uses it with people on the autism spectrum, neurodiverse couples, and anyone looking to build emotional intelligence.
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Relationships & family
Relationships11 resources
Books – Before Marriage
Books
- 101 Ways to Build a Stronger, More Exciting Marriage
- Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life
- Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert
- The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
- Write It Out, Don’t Fight It Out: How to Use Letters to Heal Your Relationship When Talking Gets Tough
- 201 Relationship Questions: The Couple’s Guide to Building Trust and Emotional Intimacy
- The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
- The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman’s Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships
Websites
Infidelity5 resources
Books
- Torn Asunder
- NOT “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
- After the Affair, Updated Second Edition: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
- You, Him and the Other Woman: Break the Love Triangle and Reclaim Your Marriage, Your Love, and Your Life
Dating1 resources
Books
Blended Families2 resources
Sexuality3 resources
Singleness2 resources
Deception1 resources
Books
Neurodiversity
Autism & Asperger's14 resources
Books
- NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity by Steve Silberman (2015-08-25)
- Understanding Autism in Adults and Aging Adults: Improving Diagnosis and Quality of Life
- The Asperger Couple’s Workbook: Practical Advice and Activities for Couples and Counselors Workbook
- The Other Half of Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder): A Guide to Living in an Intimate Relationship with a Partner who is on the Autism Spectrum Second Edition
- Neurodiverse Relationships Authors: Joanna Pike and Tony Attwood
- Is That Clear? Autism inspired tips for allistic (non-autistic) people Authors: Zanne Gaynor, Kathryn Alevizos and Joe Butler
- The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man’s Quest to Be a Better Husband
- Thinking in Pictures, Expanded Edition: My Life with Autism
- Life With a Partner or Spouse With Asperger Syndrome: Going Over the Edge? Practical Steps to Savings You and Your Relationship
- Asperger’s on the Job: Must-have Advice for People with Asperger’s or High Functioning Autism, and their Employers, Educators, and Advocates
ADHD4 resources
Websites
Articles
Careers2 resources
Mental health
Anxiety & Depression2 resources
Trauma6 resources
Websites
Grief3 resources
SaltwaterEveryone who terrifies you is 65% water.And everyone you love is made of stardust,and I knowsometimesyou cannot breathe deeply, andthe night sky is no home, andthat you are down to your last two percent,butnothing is infinite,not even loss.You are made of the sea and the stars, andone day,you are going to find yourself again.– Finn Butler
Death1 resources
Suicide4 resources
“Suicide is anything but final. It echoes into everything afterwards. It is the definition of a life unfinished.” – Z. Williams
Shame1 resources
Self-Esteem1 resources
Sleep2 resources
Life & Mental Health9 resources
Channels & Podcasts
Articles
Biofeedback2 resources
Gender Identity1 resources
Women's Issues1 resources
Seniors1 resources
Websites
Addiction & recovery
Digital & gaming addiction15 resources
Parental Controls
Books
Videos
Articles
Websites
- Computer Gaming Addicts Anonymous – Twelve Steps
- Common Sense Media – Find great media for kids of any age and learn what’s appropriate
- Cyberwise – No grownup left behind! Learn about digital citizenship, Internet safety, security, privacy, cyberbullying, sexting, reputation management and more so you can help kids embrace technology safely and wisely
Drug & alcohol addiction13 resources
Home Drug Testing
Books
Sex & love addiction11 resources
Books
- Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
- Don’t Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction
- Facing the Shadows: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery
- A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery
- Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
- Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts
- Every Man’s Battle, Revised and Updated 20th Anniversary Edition: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time
- What’s the Big Deal About Pornography?
- In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior
- Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting Our Children
Websites
Growth & wellbeing
Emotional Intelligence6 resources
Videos
Financial Intelligence1 resources
Gratitude2 resources
Happiness5 resources
“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony.” – Thomas Merton
Hardware Tools for Therapy or Coaching4 resources
Meaning & Goals1 resources
Personal Growth6 resources
Books
Podcasts
Service3 resources
Time Talent Treasure
Spirituality6 resources
Do your best, give God the rest!
Books
Time Management2 resources
Virtue1 resources
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